Excessive blushing is a problem suffered by many people throughout the world. When an event happens that leaves that person slightly flustered or embarrassed, their face can turn a beat red color and they become quite squeamish. This is a normal thing for a lot of folks who simply cannot cope with certain tenuous situations. Though blushing is not a huge issue that can alter your life, it could impact your ability to conduct business or have a negative impact on your interpersonal relationships. As most people would tell you, confidence is a very important factor in life. Blushing can come from a lack of confidence or it can lead other people to believe that you lack confidence. Neither of those is a good thing.

Blushing has been linked to shame, embarrassment, or modesty. Though modesty is usually an attractive feature, none of those other things are things that people hold in high regard. It is important that you shake the stigma associated with blushing. The biggest problem that blushers face is the fact that they are sometimes scared to interact in social situations. This can cause people to be uncomfortable around you and can negatively impact your relationships. If you feel like blushing is causing a rift in your life, it is time to do something about it.

Blushing is not a physical problem. It is a mental problem that continues to impact you in similar situations. Your mind is telling your body to produce that reaction. If you are going to get over blushing, it takes a change in thinking. One great way to change your habits is through hypnosis. Hypnotherapy or self hypnosis are both great ways to deal with any number of problems. Though many of the problems that I deal with as a hypnotherapist have to do with much more threatening issues such as problems with addiction, I also see many clients who have problems with blushing.

In order to get over your problem, you have to take a proactive approach to changing your ways. Simply wanting your blushing problem to go away is not going to fix anything. Get information today about hypnosis and figure out if it is something that you might be interested in. Hypnosis is not just something that is used in magic shows. It is a very real solution for many people who suffer from everyday problems. Making the decision to go through hypnotherapy could change your life for the better.

Thinking positive can be a lot like lying to yourself. You tell yourself things that are not true in order to change your state of mind. Friends who tell you to think positive are sabotaging you without even knowing it.

Negative and limiting emotions are the playground for imbalance, unsure ness, worry and anxiety.
When you are caught up in your emotions, you are making decisions based on what you see through those emotional glasses. What we want to be able to do is to take off those emotional glasses so that you can make more clear choices based off of higher unlimited emotional states such as courageousness, acceptance and peace.

And once your there anything is possible. There are a lot of times that we cannot reach for what we want based off of the principals of the movie “The Secret”. Letting go of the emotions that hold you back are ways of implementing the movies guidelines so that you become everything it is that you want to be.

The trap that we fall into is all of the oppositional thoughts that come up when we use the principals of “The Secret”. All of those thoughts that say it’s not true. Such as:

“I have all the money I need to pay my bills”
“I am living in abundance”
“I am moving more and more towards financial freedom”
“I am truly happy every day in every way”

It looks good on paper but notice the resistance that engenders when you say those phrases. Often times it is right in your gut or just below the sternum. It’s different for everyone. Sometimes you break out in cold sweats and bang your hand against your head like Rain Man…wait…that was me 5 years ago. Sorry.

Now the quickest shortest way towards your goals is to say it to yourself just like the movies suggests. You vision it, feel it. Just as if it were happening to you right now. Again though, that is tough for most of us because it feels as though we are lying to ourselves. Most of our responses to the above statements are, “Yeah right.” “Whatever” and the ever famous, “Bulls***”

Those thoughts, needless to say, don’t serve you. What if you tried to phrase it just a little differently? What if you could phrase the goal statements in a way that allowed for the possibility of having abundance or being truly happy?

Try this.

“I allow myself to have all the money I need to pay my bills”
“I allow myself to have abundance”
“I allow myself to be truly happy”

Notice how that feels? Can you feel the space opening up within? See how now it’s not such a stretch for you to reach your goal. When you allow for the possibility then you don’t have very far to go before you can kick it up a notch and say, “I am living in abundance.” I am truly happy.”

Remember, your emotions and feelings don’t want you to be happy. They would rather have you stay in the security of your suffering than to be out in the unlimited possibility of the unknown. Grasp this, and you will well be on your way to mastering your own mind and creating the type of life you deserve to have.

To find out more about how to discover the passion that’s already within you…You might find it helpful to sign up for my free 6 part Email course. Just send a mail to the address below to sign up: discoverpassion@bobbyspiritspeak.com

We lose our love for those who want to control, suppress or use us when we believe that:

a. Others want to control me.
b. I must do what others want in order to have their love and be safe.
c. I am in danger if I do not do what others want.
d. I cannot love someone who does not do what I want and thus others will not love me if I do not do what they want.
e. I am the victim.
f. I will not be a good person if I say no.
g. I am weak and cannot protect myself.
h. I must protect my freedom from others – by not doing what they want or ask.

First of all it may not at all true that others are trying to control or suppress us. This could be a subjective projection from our past, causing us to misinterpret their motives. They may simply be living their lives and seeking to satisfy their needs. They may not want to suppress us, and might feel quite surprised if we told them we believed that they wanted to.

Often we create our own feelings of suppression because of our inability to express our own needs and feelings. In such cases the others have no idea of what we are feeling, because we do not let them know. In such cases, the problem can be easily solved by effective communication in which we explain what we would like to do and not like to do.

Some may actually want us to do something we prefer not to do, because they want to help us, they believe it will be good for us. Their ultimate motive is to help us.

Even when others do want to control us, they cannot force us to do anything we do not want to do, unless we need something from them. We must need their approval, love, money or our job, or perhaps even our life, if that is in their hands. So ultimately we bargain our freedom for what we need from them. We can be free, only when we are secure enough within ourselves to do what we really want regardless of the consequences. In such cases, our lesson might be to develop the inner strength to do what we really want with love, and with no fear or negative feelings towards the other.

In other cases, we may need to learn to let go of our needs and comply with the others, wishes. with love and without feelings of sacrifice. Our lesson may be to let go of the fear of being controlled and offer in love what the others need from us.

We fear losing the other’s love more so when we ourselves are unable to love them when they do not do what we want from them. If we are unable to love others when they say “no, then we cannot imagine that they will love us if we do not comply with their wishes.

We can love those who seek to suppress us when we understand that:
a. We are being given this situation as an opportunity for growth.
b. No one can suppress us, unless we need something from them.
c. Our lesson might be to learn to refuse with love.
d. We are safe and lovable even when we chose not to do what the others want.
e. We may need to learn to do what the others need with love.

From the forthcoming book “Love is The Choice”
by Robert Elias Najemy