The French language has always been a puzzle for most people who didn’t grow up using the language. Whatever could a person’s reason is; there’s always a benefit in learning another foreign language no matter how one put it. Learning the French language for this matter is useful. You’d say, there’s no need for you to learn it because you’re not off for France and you don’t think you would ever for as long as you live.

I know what you mean, but it’s not only in traveling where a person can expect to get benefits out of learning one of the most beautiful languages in the world. Knowing right away what important information written in French without needing to grab a dictionary or panic for words at the most crucial moment means that it’s already a great achievement for somebody learning the language.

What’s important for you to realize is that you’ll learn the French language no matter what it takes. It seems difficult at first, but hey, that’s part of learning. You certainly won’t learn anything if you don’t try hard enough and hard could be difficult. Tell yourself that learning is going to be an easy task because what is in your mind makes you do just what you think you can.

If you want to take learning French lessons or courses, then go ahead. What’s good about it is that you can take all the time you want without having to go out of your regular daily schedule. Also, learning French using language courses doesn’t put you on any pressure, making it possible for you to concentrate exactly on what you need to learn. Learning has to go with your mood because it’s easier for the mind to understand a lesson when it’s ready. Language courses are available in the internet; find out what French course could work for you.

This a free self help article with ways to motivate you to take the steps you have been meaning to take but have put off for whatever reasons. Lets face it no one is going to come to your door and give you a million dollars. Whatever you want in life you are going to have to go out and get. Life gives you what you ask for.

What are you missing in your life? Write down a list of things you want but do not have yet. Be specific, and be sure why you want those things. Next take out the ones which maybe self destructive and the ones that maybe self destructive to others. Next describe in detail how you would feel if you were to receive those things you wanted. For example, if you wrote you wanted a brand new Mercedes Benz get into more detail. What color? What model? What would the inside smell like? What would be the first CD you would play in your new Mercedes Benz? Who would you show your car to first? So you would write something like this: My new Mercedes Benz would be a black on black CLK 500. I would blast my Rolling Stones Greatest Hits CD first. All of my friends from work would be the first to see my new black on black Mercedes. Go through this process for each thing you want but do not have. After you have completed your list, read it out loud once a day. As you are reading it out loud actually imagine yourself already having your item on the list. Doing this on a consist basis will not make the items on your list pop out of no where. What it will do is give you the drive to go out and get the things on the list. If you cannot afford them you will start to think of ways you can afford them.

Hopefully this free self help article helped out somewhat. Your mind gives you whatever results you ask of it. Whatever you truly think of yourself your mind will help that visualization come true. So it is best to fill your thoughts with upbeat and positive thoughts.

After all we’d been through, taking my husband back was the easy part. Rebuilding trust was so much harder.

In January 2005 my husband and I reconciled.

I told myself that I would never take him back if he cheated again, especially if he got her pregnant.

But to tell the truth, I have learned to never say never.

Especially when God has the final say.

I remember telling my mother-in-law that the chapter of my life with her son was over and that I was closing that chapter forever. Now, my husband’s mother is one of those COGIC, older, hat wearing, sanctified, mothers of the church, who also happens to be an Evangelist. She is sweet as peach cobbler, but do not mess with her in the spirit. She calmly said in a very soft whisper, “But did God say the chapter was over? Until He says it’s over, it ain’t over baby”.

“Goodbye Mom.” I hung up the phone.

Many of our conversations ended that way. She had a way of telling me what I didn’t want to hear. And it always seemed to come at all the wrong times. She would even call me at 5 in the morning, pray for me, and end with the phrase, “Thus saith the Lord and it is done”. Then she would just hang up. Thinking back on that day makes me smile because I have learned that again– it’s not about me.

I know I obeyed God and agreed to reconcile, but was I ready for the journey that I was about to go on? It has been 2 years and I am just now becoming truly free. It does not happen overnight. It is a process.

“I am free… Praise the lord I’m free… No longer bound… No more chains holding me…. My soul is resting…. It’s just a blessing…. Praise the Lord Hallelujah I’m free…”

I first heard that song over 12 years ago, sung by my sister-in-law, with a sweet angelic voice, before a sermon preached by my mother-in-law. I didn’t know at the time how much it would truly minister to me and be a part of my healing all these years later. The average person would assume the words to that song are about someone who is locked behind bars, in jail or chained up. You could also make the assumption that it refers to someone who has passed on to be with the Lord (“My soul is resting”). But none of those interpretations apply to how the song ministers to me. My freedom is within. It has nothing to do with my husband but everything to do with me. I had to work on me.

The voices in my head, the anxiety and the torture let me know that a war was taking place inside me. No, I wasn’t loony or crazy but I could have easily become that way, so I don’t take it for granted. I thank the Lord daily for waking me up in my right mind. No, I was my own biggest enemy. Peace in my mind is what I pray for daily because I truly would have lost my mind if I didn’t have God on my side. That is one thing I would not trade for any amount of money. What good is having money if you don’t have peace of mind? You can’t buy peace and if you could, it would expire. Plus– anything purchased can be exchanged.

“Where you going?”
“What time will you be back?”
“Are you taking the kids with you?”

Those are some of the questions I had to ask when my husband wanted to go somewhere after we reconciled. What is trust? In the dictionary trust is confidence, belief, assurance, certainty and faith.

My son went practically everywhere his father did when he first returned home. He didn’t do it because I made this rule; my husband did it to reassure me, and maybe to reassure himself.

When my husband first came home (and still to this day), he did everything in his power to make me feel at ease. He called everyday at the same time when he was at work. He would stay on the phone with me each time he was out of my presence. He called on his way to work and on his way from work. He would call me during every break he had when he was at work.
It was a huge effort on his end. And I know it must have taken a toll.

On my end it was torture. Not when he called but those times when he couldn’t call.

My heart would start beating really fast. Thoughts would flood my mind.

He would come home 5 minutes late and I turned into a television drama show detective.

He did everything in his power to assist me in rebuilding my trust. The funny thing is, he was doing all that he knew how to do on his end. But once trust has been shattered it’s gone for good. Trust for me had lost the ‘T’. It was no longer TRUST but RUST. That’s how I felt, it was rusty, like something metal that had been sitting in the rain for years and was no longer good for anything.

On the outside I had it together but on the inside the war was taking place. It was me against. me. It was personal. It was within.

I forgot to tell him something one morning so I called his phone.

Ring.
Ring.
Ring.
No answer.
Voice mail.

Ok, now the war in my mind has called in more troops. It’s on now.

“Where is he?”
Who is he with?”
“He doesn’t love me.”
“He is at it again.”
My stomach started to turn, and more thoughts came to my mind.
“Why did I take him back?”
“This is too much for me.”
“I am going to tell him I can’t do this.”

Ring. He called me back a few minutes later. I answered on the first ring.

Here comes that crazy tongue.

Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!( James 3:5)

“Where were you?”
“What were you doing?”
“Why did it take you 5 minutes to call me back?”

Very patiently he said, “Whoa, um Nicole, I was working and it is 10:30am. I love you.”
“Oh.”

We hung up. I never told him what I originally wanted.

Sounds crazy huh? This is just one of the episodes that let me know that this was bigger than me. The truth was, it was only 10:30 am and he was working.

The process begins.

I then began to pray this prayer each day: “Lord keep him, if You don’t keep him than he just can’t and won’t be kept”. I couldn’t watch him all the time, but the angels could. I had to turn it over to my heavenly Father who gave me peace when I was alone. After all it was his Father too. So I went to Daddy on him.

MY RESUME

Then I looked back over my spiritual resume. I keep a resume on what God has delivered me from. These are things I know without a shadow of a doubt. “If it had not been for the Lord on my side I would not have made it.” And this was one of those times. I reviewed my ‘peace’ section and saw how He calmed me, and kept me in my right mind when my husband had walked away. Surely He would do it for me now. Then I decided that God brought me to far to lose it now. He walked with me through one of the roughest periods in my life and I refuse to allow all the work he did to me and for me to be deleted from my spiritual resume. No one, not even me, has the right to take it from me and have it removed from my resume. It was sacred to me. The Lord restored my peace and I was not going to allow it to be taken from me. It was precious; a gift that could not be purchased and could never be sold.

As women, we love very hard but when we hurt– we hurt hard.

In the beginning I thought my husband had to do all the work in rebuilding my trust. What I had to realize was that it was MY trust, so it was MY issue. He couldn’t change anything that had to do with me. And I could not change him. He could set the atmosphere, but ultimately I (with the Lord’s help) had to decide to trust again. Not rebuild that old trust which was rusted and good for nothing. I had to allow God to give me a brand new trust and that meant that I must first commit my husband, my marriage and my family to Him. Then somebody made the mistake of telling me that God was a keeper of all things. So since I have committed them, now He must keep them.

Guard your spiritual resume. When you are struggling in an area, go to it and review your sections. If you don’t have one, create one, even if you commit it to memory.

Do you have a peace section?

I do.