Jealousy is a major depressing feeling. It has several definitions but regardless of disparity in its definitions, a common theme may be noted – that jealousy is a significant idea. Jealousy is often misconstrued as similar to envy but distinctions were made identifying jealousy to be a desire to keep what someone has while envy is that desire to obtain what someone does not have.

Jealousy may be constructive or destructive. Some psychologists believe that jealousy is necessary as love in a relationship. It is a natural unavoidable response which normally represents longing for things one may have lost. It can be an adapted response to the society or an intrinsic and unconscious behavior for genetic survival.

However, there is also what is known as dysfunctional jealousy which is considered the dark side of this emotion. This misplaced jealousy is what ruins good relationships. A significant percentage of murders are committed by some jealous lover. Most couples undergoing psychotherapy have jealousy problem.

One common cause of this jealous behavior is insecurity. It could arise from a feeling of uncertainty in a relationship, be it a love, working, or any other relationship. And this usually occurs when there is an existing competition in a liaison with somebody.

Oftentimes, jealousy is also caused by women’s tendency to be protective of their man. Their fear of losing their man because of dissatisfaction in their current relationships also drives them to be jealous. Men, on the other hand, portray this jealous behavior if they feel intimidated by other men. This is because of their concern to protect their egos.

But jealousy could be managed so as not to destroy relationships. Most of the time, mental stress brought about by negative emotions is what causes jealousy. Pessimistic outlook in life can be a hindrance to one’s happiness by causing emotional imbalance which ends up in health problems.

Since one’s mental state causes this jealousy, then the best way to get rid of this jealous behavior is counseling. One only has to listen to what professionals (like psychologists) say about this feeling. Hypnotherapy could be an effective solution to this jealousy problem. Through these techniques, one is guided towards proper rerouting of love demonstration. One has to learn to let go and trust a partner to avoid that tendency to control a loved one’s life. Jealousy can be controlled by discarding all negative thoughts and emotions.

In a relationship, jealousy has always been considered to be unhealthy if it leads to non-stop fights and arguments.

In fact, jealousy is the top reason why many marriages end up in divorces. A jealous partner is annoying, embarrassing and greatly frustrating. Jealousy can be caused by insecurities in a relationship, further provoked by hidden communication lines and mysteries.

If you are in a relationship, in which jealousy is an issue, then you should know that there are effective ways to control it.

The first step in controlling jealous is by communicating with your partner how you feel. You must make your partner see and understand that there are no reasons to be jealous.

It is important that your partner will not perceive any hidden communication lines. You can show your partner letters from old friends or phone calls you received that day. The key is making your partner realize that you disclose everything. Although it sounds pretty tiring, sooner or later your partner will feel trusting.

On the other hand, if you are the jealous partner, you should also open communication lines with your partner and discuss why you have been feeling that way. In most cases, your partner does not realize that he is doing something that makes you feel jealous. Again, the key is communication. You should try to talk to your partner how you felt and why you felt it. Admitting jealousy calmly would even be better than denying it but getting worked up over nothing.

In situations where you or your partner feels extremely jealous, it would be best to calm down first before tackling an issue. Sometimes being jealous and angry at the same time make the situation worse. Analyze the situation carefully, keeping in mind your partner’s normal behavior. Jealousy is often triggered by changes in your partner’s attitude and mood, fueled by suspicion. If you try avoiding suspicion and instead focus on facts, you would soon discover other reasons such as work stress, health problems and others, all not related to you or your relationship.

If given free reign, jealousy will destroy whatever bond you have with your partner. This is the reason why it is very important that you and your partner work it out early in the relationship. If ignored, it can cause you more problems and heartaches in the future. You and your partner should act now, or lose each other completely in the process.

Ants move in groups.. Ants never get tired. They are always on the move. I have never seen an ant take rest…. Is the ant really making any progress? God alone knows perhaps it could be moving in the wrong direction who knows…

Many of my friends are successful,wealthy and happy. They have made significant progress in their respective fields. They are always on the move.. They are miles ahead of other people. Have they really made any progress? God alone knows perhaps they could be moving in the wrong direction who knows……..

Ordinary people applaud extraordinary or great beings. That does not mean that the great people are making progress. How do we know? How can you be sure that action and status signify growth? Who told you that forward movements always signify progress? Does comparison really matter when it comes down to the grind? …. Your measurement of progress and growth could be totally wrong because the tool you use to measure growth is the same tool which helped you travel that distance…… It is equal to correcting your own papers during examinations. The results will always be biased when a human mind evaluates its own mind or any other mind superior or inferior to it. Human mind cannot judge itself… You need a superior tool,not a superior human being to judge your mind….

Lets say for example that you were to monitor the evolution of an ant. Can you as a human being justify the progress of any ant… Can you pick up an ant and say that it has made terrific growth in its life span? What would be the criteria you would use for measuring the ant’s growth? Would that criteria match the ant’s mind? Think about it my dear friend. By all means your criteria for growth would not be in sink with the ant’s mind…..

The way you visualise the ants is the way God visualises you perhaps…. He might have a different criteria for progress and growth than what you thought….. You might well be moving in the wrong direction.. Do not think that by walking further down the road you have made any progress. You have only covered some distance. Action and movement might not signify growth. Do not be too much overawed by those people who are greater than you. They too are travelling in the same road. They might be miles ahead of you, but who is there to justify whether that it is the right road?….Winners and losers doesnt matter when the race is disqualified by the referee…

The tiny ant pinched me on my foot…. It seemed to be saying “I won the race.” Who cares? I know it is moving in the wrong road. I crushed it badly for hurting me. It died. The other ant following it took a different road…