Yesterday was a fine day, a really great day, at least, the start of it. As is my usual routine, I started the morning writing, then making phone calls. Next, I checked email. There were many– several from readers of my books. Some took the time to express thanks and wanted to know what other books I had written. They spoke of life-changing insights; they thanked me for providing them the opportunity to read my works. They wanted more. I felt good, really good.

It got better. By lunchtime, there were a number of orders for my “PowerPause” system. The ordering system worked perfectly; I was hearing from excited affiliates who were excited. The positive feedback on my products was encouraging and rewarding. I leaned back in my chair and smiled. Yes, things were working; life was good.

And then it happened. I checked my email once more before quitting for the day. There, buried among all the wonderful notes was a short email from someone who had purchased a “PowerPause” kit the week before. It said something to the effect that he wanted a refund and wanted it right away. “Your ‘PowerPause’ is not for me,” he continued. “It did nothing for me. I know all the things you talked about. I’ve read them before and am way beyond such simple stuff. Just give me back my money.”

I stared in disbelief at the email on the monitor. I printed it out and read it again. A sad feeling came over me. All kinds of thoughts flowed through my mind. For a moment, I thought, how could he NOT like my product? After all, thousands of people have benefited from it. Why couldn’t he understand? Did he need to be so insulting? Look what he did; just look what he did to me.

Had this been a few years ago, the next few hours would have been quite unpleasant. I would have just focused on this one, unfortunate event. I would have ruined my entire evening by allowing thoughts of rejection to possess me. Rejection, at any level, is unpleasant.

But I have learned over the years that events of this nature were not a rejection of who I am and what I do. That customer really didn’t do anything to me. He just did what he did because it was his nature to do so. He had every right to do what he did. Didn’t I offer an unconditional guarantee? Didn’t I specifically state, on my website, that if someone didn’t find the “PowerPause” useful, I’d refund the money, no questions asked? Why should I be upset if one person took advantage of my offer?

In business, as in other areas of our lives, we oftentimes face rejection. It becomes much easier to deal with if we remember that we are not rejected because of who we are but because of who the other person is. If we understand this, and if we do not personalize it, life would be much calmer, more peaceful and certainly more productive.

Author, Richard Bach had already written a number of books when he sent his new manuscript to a major publisher. It was promptly rejected with a note attached as to its quality. But he kept on keeping on, and seventeen or eighteen rejections later, his manuscript was finally accepted by Macmillan. It was Richard’s positive way of looking at life that made him keep on. I am sure that rejection bothered him a bit. But the publication of “Jonathan Livingston Seagull” resulted in Richard Bach gracing the cover of Time magazine. And from what I’ve heard, his meaningful books have touched the hearts of millions of readers.

Yes, rejection is tough. It doesn’t matter whether the rejection comes from a customer, a business associate, a friend, husband, wife, lover, customer or a total stranger, it still hurts. If we possess any sensitivity at all. it’s natural for us to feel bad. The trick is not to mind too much, not to focus all our energy and time on saying, “Look what they did, just look what they did to me.”

Just remember, there’s no one else on earth with your talents and your abilities. No one else can do what you do. You are unique, a special person– someone whose hopes and dreams span eternity itself. Don’t let rejection bring you down. Just interpret it slightly differently from the way you’re accustomed to and you’ll find that your journey through life becomes much more pleasant.

Being able to quit smoking can be accomplished by merely the power of suggestion with a hypnotherapy stop smoking programme. For smokers, cigarettes are very important. Even with the rising costs and numerous health warnings, smokers still do not ever leave home without them. Most smokers do want to quit, some have even made several failed attempts, and others go to successfully quit but trade the smoking health related problems for an extra 40 or 50 pounds.

Smoking is an emotional and psychological/habitual issue, so when a person quits and claims that the main reason that they quit was because of health issues or expenses, that is the wrong approach as they should focus on quitting as a positive reinforcement and plan to look to the future. Hypnotherapy for quit smoking has been very successful in helping people stop smoking.

Chances are that you would quit smoking if you knew it would be an easy task. Especially if you knew you would not fail. Think of yourself in the near future as a non smoker and all of the benefits that non smokers get to enjoy. Imagine how proud you will be once you have kicked the habit. Hypnosis is nothing more than a state of mind that a therapist assists you in getting into. In order to get to that state, you need to be completely relaxed both physically and mentally. Most therapists will take you to a happy time as your focal point before they take you to the bleak issue of quitting smoking. The process that is then used is called desensitization and that is basically replacing a bad experience or habit with a good one. Usually the good experience that replaces the bad feeling or in this case, the quitting of cigarettes, would be replaced with the positive thought that you held onto while under hypnosis. This concept is for the hypnotists to put you in a trance in order to access your sub conscious mind, which is at that point completely vulnerable.

The higher the patient’s motivation and desire is to quit smoking, the more successful the outcome will be. The right side of the brain is the side that is responsible for emotion and creativeness while the left side is responsible for logic. Yet, during hypnosis, the right side is generally more stimulated. The left side of the brain during hypnosis has a higher level cognitive processing and behavior. In order for a therapist to put someone into a hypnotic state or a trance, there has to be the right conditions such as intense concentration, extreme relaxation and high suggestibility.

While the subject is in this state, which is very similar to that of dreaming, the hypnotist is able to incorporate on the power of suggestion to influence the mind of the patient. If a person enters a clinic for the purpose of being hypnotized and they believe the hypnosis will work they will have a much better chance than if they come in believing otherwise and the reason for that again is the power of suggestion. For the purpose of quitting smoking, a person that decides to utilize hypnosis with a positive attitude will allow the hypnotist to replace the need to smoke with a more positive action or memory, making the urge to light up again a distant memory.

I’m telling you, there really is something to this mind/body connection thing. Controlling how you feel can sometimes seem like an impossible task. When we are down, angry, indifferent, lazy, our posture takes on a totally different form. Our body reflects our inner mood. Wouldn’t it be great if we could change those states and be fired up, upbeat, positive, more happy! Well its hard to keep it all together sometimes but we do have control over our emotions.

One trick I have discovered is that you can change your mood by changing your clothes. There is this one outfit I own that just makes me feel like a rock star. Everything about my posture, outlook and state changes every time I wear this outfit out. Its almost like putting on a mask or assuming a different role in this crazy play called life. Of course this is only good for the weekends. But I got to thinking maybe other outfits in my wardrobe can be used for other moods. And so now I’m building up a collection of mood clothes such as serious, focused, productive, handy, social, etc. Its good to know that your outlook on life is within your own control and that a walk to your closet can mean a change of state.

I encourage you to try this out but start slow. Its better to buy new outfits and associate them with new feelings than to try to use older stuff in your closet. Also you must make a commitment to make the desired feeling real. The first couple of times I wore my rock star clothes I made sure I was going out to have a great time. Recently I got this new stylish pinstripe shirt that I wear when I need to be extra productive. I take it and my laptop to the posh library downtown and just get to work.

You maybe saying its not the shirt but your actions that make you feel that way, but really I don’t care as long as I get results. Yes it does take a little effort at first or luck to associate the right feelings with a new outfit but once its locked you can take it easy a bit. Last weekend I really was not in the party mood but once I put on my rock star outfit on, I couldn’t help but feel outrageous and ready for fun. All the previous positive experiences just overwhelmed me when I slip that bad boy on.

So try associating some great positive moods to your new and stylish clothes. Make dressing up a statement of your style but also something that can benefit you personally by enhancing your mood. Look good – feel good. This direct positive mind/body link is amazing and works every time.