We’re all grownups here, right? How hard can it be to be a functional adult? Then why do we struggle so? Depression and anxiety disorders are epidemic in our society. Stress-related health problems threaten the quality and span of our lives. Alcoholism and drug addiction touch many of our lives and to me reflect our attempts to find release or escape from pressure and our failure to thrive.

Are we even built to withstand the strain of our increasingly mechanized world? We adapt but at what cost? People move from job to job, from state to state, weakening the fabric of community and family ties. We are increasingly forced to rely on our own internal resources and have a limited repertoire of mental and emotional strategies to draw from. Our “emotional intelligence” may not be up to processing and resolving the myriad of challenges we face, especially when it comes to our relationships.

What if relief was as easy as changing our thoughts? Neuroscience is proving what Norman Vincent Peale posited in The Power of Positive Thinking. We become physically addicted to emotional states. Therein lies the power of negative thinking. We reinforce neuro-pathways by repetition of thoughts and associations so that we automatically switch on self-destructive tapes. We feel resentment, anger, hurt, hopelessness and fear, often unnecessarily. Many painful emotions are related to injuries incurred in childhood and are re-experienced through the hardwired perception of the immature mind we inhabited as a child. By retraining our conscious mind, we can choose to put a different spin on our perception of events, emotions and the behavior of others.

The Buddhists believe that it takes 100,000 repetitions for any new skill or idea to take hold. Undo established negatives by eliminating every “should, “have to”, “always” and “never” from our vocabulary. Listen for other rigid, fixed ideas that preclude seeing events in a dynamic, liberating way. By challenging these carryovers from the past we can rewrite our history from the perspective of the empowered adult. We then create the space to realize that we have all the resources to overcome life’s obstacles. In time, and with many repetitions, we change our thoughts and our lives.

Certainly social anxiety & phobia is indeed a complex isssue. People with social anxiety disorders have the following features: –

Fear that everyones attention is on them and everybody is watching them; Fear that they will make a blunder and everybody will be aware of it.

They are underestimated by thinking that everybody in this world is more capable than they are.

People with social anxiety disorder will feel anxiety and this same anxiety may lead to nausea, a sinking heart, sweating and blushing etc. This may then later result in a panic attack

There are some people who lose their confidence when dealing with people of authority such as employers or perhaps if you are a student you may be slightly overcome by your tutor. At the top scale of this is another important condition which is called acute panic syndrome and this condition people will cause the sufferer to feel fear of speaking in front of the public which may be characterized by sweating and a sinking of heart.

Social anxiety disorders arise in the childhood and early adulthood but these disorders are rare after the age of 25 years. Women are affected 2 times more than men and as we go further, we must differentiate between shyness and social anxiety disorders. Shy people do not feel as much anxiety as experienced by persons suffering from social anxiety disorders and people suffering from social anxiety disorders tend to avoid visiting public places.

There is an association of depression with social anxiety disorders and this can occur after a sufferer has been taking medicine to alleviate the condition. Drug dependance is common but it would seem that certain medicines are also helpful in treating the condition somehow. The medicines used for the treatment of social phobia are the type of anti depressant drugs named SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) which include fluoxitine and paroxitine. Beta blockers may also be used for these treatment purposes with the most important being propanolol.

Social anxiety disorders lead to embarrassment for persons suffering from it and subsequently this same embarrassment may prove to be destructive for that person so it should be treated as soon as possible.

You need to find solutions to teen-age problems, very fast. This generation is in a hurry. They have no time to pause and ponder. Being young, impressionable minds, they are easily carried away. They want quick rewards, efforts or no efforts. For every question, the youngsters have a counter-question. As a matter of course, this generation picks up bad habits. Smoking is one such serious habit, which needs to be checked well in time.

To help your child stop smoking is your parental responsibility. Do not show any latitude on this count.

Teenage smoking has been increasing at a phenomenal rate for the last few decades. The reasons may be many, but if the elder members in a family smoke, you can hardly do anything morally about smoking.

This negative tendency is also given additional fillip by advertisements in TV, newspapers, and calculated encouragement by the tobacco manufacturers. This habit has assumed alarming proportions in the college-going youngsters.

The father and mother alone can not help the teenage child. His social environment also compulsively influences him. So, they need to be provided with helpful resources for identifying remedy for their compulsive smoking addiction.

Educating the teenagers on compulsive smoking addiction, should be a part of the school syllabus. There are many stop smoking centers, run by private individuals or voluntary organizations. Provide your son with their telephone number, and if necessary take them along you, a couple of times.

There is another danger about smoking. Smoking is just the first step of the ladder of a series of destructive habits. The child, after taking course to smoking, may indulge in self-destructive behavior and neglect studies.

Notice these early warnings and your child’s changed behavior, to take corrective measures immediately.

The future of the family depends upon the children. It is your duty to give them good education and a solid foundation as for their moral and ethical values.

Children generally take to habits like smoking because of a lack of communication between the members of the family and the children. You will be the party to their moral doom, and ethical disaster unless you do something tangible, well in time.