One of the most important steps in consciously using the Law of Attraction is learning to change our expectations. Why? Because the Universe delivers exactly what we expect to see. Our expectations are formed on the foundation of our existing beliefs.

If we believe ourselves to be lacking financially, we will expect to see a bigger proportion of bills than income – and the universe delivers. If we believe we are sick, overweight or weak, we expect to feel pain and fatigue – and the universe delivers. If we believe ourselves to be unworthy of love, we expect not to be loved – and guess what the universe delivers?

Think back to the experiences you’ve had in your past and ask yourself if you got what you were expecting. Have you ever uttered statements like these?

I just can’t get ahead!
I’m so sick of struggling.
Everything always goes wrong for me.
If it wasn’t for bad luck, I’d have no luck at all.
This is too good to be true, something’s going to go wrong.

Words like these are actually self-fulfilling prophesies. You are, in effect, placing your order with the universe at the moment you begin feeling the feelings behind the words (yes, even before you SPEAK the words!). The universe doesn’t care what words you use, it pays attention to your vibrations – the energetic signal you’re sending out. That signal is formed by your beliefs and expectations.

So how do we change our expectations? Is it possible? Absolutely!

One of the most powerful things you can begin doing is consciously expecting the best. Throughout the course of your day, take a few moments to pause and expect something wonderful. Say to yourself, “Today is going to be a great day!” Try to find the positive expectation in every experience. If your boss asks to speak with you privately, rather than expecting him to reprimand or fire you, expect him to praise you and give you a pay raise! Rather than expecting to see bills in your mailbox when you get home, expect to see a check.

The more you can keep this feeling of happy expectation in your heart, the more often you will see results that directly mirror your expectations.

Does it sound unbelievable? Far-fetched? Try this little experiment:

Before leaving your home one morning, say to yourself, “Sometime today I will see the image of a bumblebee (or any image you choose – it should be something you wouldn’t ordinarily see during your daily activities). I choose to attract this image into my awareness, and it will jump out at me so I don’t miss it. I KNOW I will see this bumblebee, and that will prove to me that my expectations DO affect my experiences.” As you speak these words, infuse them with power and conviction! Believe with all of your heart that you will indeed attract this image to yourself. Then let go of it and continue with your day like usual.

If you don’t see the image you’ve chosen, you know you didn’t put enough power and faith into your expectation!

The first time I tried this experiment, it didn’t work for me. Looking back, I’m aware that I didn’t really BELIEVE I would see a bumblebee. I hoped I would, but I was doubtful. Still, I decided to try again the next day. That’s when I really energized my expectation with unshakable faith and conviction. I was DETERMINED to see a bumblebee sometime during my day, and I wouldn’t accept any other outcome. Boy did I get what I asked for! All that day, I saw bumblebees wherever I went. Bumblebee logos on passing trucks, references to bees mentioned on the radio, a cashier wearing a bumblebee pin when I did some shopping, and my husband watching a television special on bees when I got home!

Once you begin to see that you can influence your experiences even in small ways, imagine the sense of empowerment you’ll feel when you decide to expect something better in the bigger aspects of your life. Try it, I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised!

The best way to seek a soul mate, or a life partner, is to use the law of attraction. The best way to seek your ideal mate is not through your conscious mind, a friend, a professional matchmaker or a computer, but your own subconscious mind. Your subconscious is already aware of your character traits, and the manifestation will take into account who best fits your character, because nobody knows you best than your own subconscious.

To begin looking for the perfect life partner, make a list of the character traits you are looking for in a soul mate. Are you looking for someone who is soft-spoken, religious, a good cook, a good home-maker, love animals, or someone with a good sense of humor? Is this person you are searching for good looking, articulate, brunette, blonde, blue or brown eyes, sexy, a good conversationalist, animal lover, or love decorating? And is this person working in a bank, with the government or self-employed?

Tell your subconscious exactly the person you are looking for as your soul mate and meditate as you would like all your other requests to the universe. You have to be clear in your choice of a soul mate and ask the universe to find for you this person each time you meditate. Never stop asking. Then imagine being married to such a person already. If you are sleeping on a king-size bed now, sleep on one side of it and pretend your soul-mate is sleeping next to you.

Make some room in your wardrobe for your soul mate’s clothes. Do the same on the dressing table to make room for your soul mate’s stuff. Have the feeling of expectancy that your soul mate will be joining your life soon and you are making room for him or her. Your emotions play a key role in the manifestation process.

If you go out shopping, buy something for your soul mate, however small it may be, like a scarf, or a hand towel. Make belief that your soul mate is already living with you. Make all these feelings real, and then go out and socialize as you would on your normal leisure time. Each time you socialize, have this expectancy of meeting your soul mate and each time you meet a new person, size him or her up and refer to your list of criteria which you listed down in the beginning, and check next to those criteria if this person meets your desired traits.

For anyone serious in getting the ideal soul mate of their dreams, this is one strategy you cannot ignore. The manifestation process is like the universe sieving through the masses of people to bring to you your ideal choice. As the likely candidates appear before you one after another, you have to make the choice of acceptance. As the subconscious cannot speak directly to you, you have to rely on instincts or six sense, because that is the subconscious way of communicating with you. But it doesn’t mean that if you reject, the flow of candidates will stop. It won’t. The candidates will continue to appear before you until you make a conscious decision of selecting your ideal choice.

In the universe, there are two great forces at work. We know them as good and evil or positive and negative. They are two powerful forces in their own right. In similar fashion, there are positive words and negative words, each causing opposite reactions when used by humans. We all know how positive words can make us feel good and inspire us, and how negative words can bring us down and led us to pain, anger or sadness. We have seen how positive words bring people together, build nations and how negative words destroy friendships, start wars, etc. Positive words and negative words work the opposites and they affect how the law of attraction manifests our thoughts.

How do we lift up a disheartened person? Definitely with positive words. We don’t use negative words to lift someone’s spirit up. Our mind works in the same manner. Positive words are food for the mind and they work magic. They send out strong vibrations to make our wishes a reality. Great self-development gurus use positive words to inspire and motivate people to reach their goals. When we use negative words like “can’t”, “impossible”, “maybe”, “if”, “whatever”, the mind will register a negative tone and the vibrations that we get is minimal, if any. When we use positive words like “for the good of all”, “I can”, “I will”, “thank you”, and “I love you” in our daily life, we become creative and magnetic. Our mind vibrates and sends out positive waves to the universe. When we greet someone with “Good morning”, the feeling resonates and affects the other person. Such is the power of positive words. Negative words are like poison. They will wear us down. Negative word is a rejection. Just like in ordinary lives they can break a relationship and they can also do the same with our mind, cutting off our receiving power and negate us. To work the law of attraction, we have to get rid of negativity and start to think and speak differently.

To explain in an analogy, negative words are like cholesterol in the blood stream. They hang on to the artery walls and slow down the flow of blood. In the end, we develop health problems like hypertension, which will lead to other complications. We have to get rid of this cholesterol in order to survive and lead a healthy and meaningful life. But unlike bad cholesterol, negative words are easy to get rid of. Just don’t use them! Keeping negative words in our vocabulary is toxin for the mind, for when we start to send our thoughts to the universe, our vibrations get hindered by the presence of these negative words, and as a result we get very weak vibrations. People who use the law of attraction but refuse to get rid of the negativity in their thoughts end up with frustration and blame that the law doesn’t work for them. We can’t make the law work unless we get rid of that stockpile of negativity from our vocabulary. That is the reason why when we are angry, the sooner the anger is released, the lighter we feel in our heads with a great sense of satisfaction. That is our subconscious telling us we have disposed off what is just excess baggage in our heads. We have to regurgitate all those negative words out of our system. From today onwards, let us only use beautiful and positive words. The English language has plenty of them.

Get rid of the feelings of hatred, jealousy, bad vibes that we have of others. They are not necessary and they just wear us down. They are just clutter in the brain and block our access to work the law of attraction. With positive words and positive thoughts, the vibrations that we send with our thoughts will get quality manifestations and quality results.