Do you ever feel that it takes more work, more out of you emotionally, to live a conscious life than it did to live less-than-consciously? Many years ago I had a T-shirt made with the saying, It’s A Bitch Being Conscious. I wore it on the first day of my Journey Into Ecstasy workshop intensive because I could count on it to evoke instant, knowing laughter from all the participants.

So why do we do it? Why do we keep working on ourselves when it takes so much effort, when we’d sometimes rather be zoned out, pour a cold one, light up a joint or cigarette, or grab the remote? Why do we put ourselves through seeming torture for no guaranteed rewards, sometimes paying a hefty price for the privilege of doing so? Are we just masochists disguised as seekers and healers? Is ignorance perhaps, if not the best policy, at least a better one than relentless self-examination? Who is it that said that the unexamined life is not worth living? A lot of people might disagree.

I know that I’m supposed to answer these rhetorical, “teaser” questions for you in this paragraph. I’m supposed to justify and validate all your hard work, the money you spend on coaching, therapy, workshops, and books, the courage you’ve mustered to face your demons. But you know, I don’t know why anyone does it.

When my coaching clients express how hard this work sometimes is all I can do is smile, agree, and cheerlead. I say things like, “Doesn’t clarity feel better than confusion?” “Doesn’t feeling your emotions feel better than walking around numb?” Sometimes they give in and admit that they like living in an aware and awakened state. Sometimes they give me the look that lets me know I’m skating on thin ice, that their answer just might be a resounding “No!” if I weren’t so chipper.

I can relate. I like the temporary high that blaming and playing the victim provide so well. Blaming feeds my ego and playing the victim allows me to relinquish responsibility for my life. Who wouldn’t say, “Bring it on!”

But once the high leaves, I’m stuck with all my hangover symptoms: depression, lower self-esteem, helplessness, and hopelessness. I wake up and see in the mirror someone who traded the excitement of possibility for the drudgery of inevitability, someone who is stuck in a rut, reading from a very boring script, complaining often and loudly. I see someone who, while familiar, is less than admirable.

Kicking and screaming, or at least whining, I stop the chatter and remind that face in the mirror what the goal of consciousness is: happiness. I tell myself that I am more than the sum of my fears, self-judgments, and limiting beliefs. I quiet the chatter long enough to hear my spirit’s whispers. And when I persevere, I do occasionally stumble onto great and unexpected joy. More often, I find myself feeling at least a small measure of peace. I’m grateful for that. Is it all worth it? I guess each of us needs to answer that question for ourselves.

Unless you’ve been hiding in a cave for the past year or you are not interested at all in anything alternative, spiritual or relating to personal development, you have without a doubt heard of or seen the movie “The Secret.”

This has been a very well-done, extremely publicized and super-well marketed movie/documentary on the “Law of Attraction”.

Brought to us by the same gang of people who did the very interesting movie “What the Bleep Do We Know,” the Secret is probably the first high-budget, widely distributed movie on the topic, or actually on any “personal development” topic.

Today I’m going to look at this movie and give you my own, uncensored opinion, and try to answer the question: is the movie the secret good or potentially harmful?

First a few facts to realize how wide an audience the movie has reached:

– The movie has been a number one best-seller on Amazon.com
– The authors have appeared twice on the Oprah Winfrey show
– With all that publicity, more than 150,000 people have viewed it online and over 700,000 copies of the DVD have been sold in the US alone.

That may not seem big in comparison to a Hollywood production but when you think that all of it has been done through viral marketing it’s rather impressive.

So what’s behind the buzz?

First you have a powerful movie, in terms of production. A lot of resources and efforts have been put to create a documentary of that caliber.

As for the content, if you’ve read “Think and Grow Rich” and the other classics of the genre, you know that the concepts shared in The Secret are not new.

The Law of Attraction

The idea is how your thoughts create your reality. It’s the law of attraction and abundance. How by thinking about what you want instead of what you don’t want you can magically attract everything you want in your life.

The movie appeals to the materialistic desires of the US population. There are examples of people “manifesting” checks in the mail (with really no context of how it happened!). You see people thinking of mansions and expensive cars and see them appear almost as if by magic!

Here’s what I think:

– The basic idea behind the movie is good
– The movie presents some important concepts that really should be part of everyone’s “mental habits”
– The concepts of the movie, however, when taken to an extreme can be potentially harmful or misleading
– The movie puts too much importance on simple “thoughts” and not enough on the real way to make things happen.

Here’s what’s missing:

It’s not really your thoughts that create your reality, it’s your actions and your decisions.

While it’s true that it’s your thoughts that lead to taking action, it’s ultimately your actions that determine the course of your life.

The movie presents two contradictory systems, in a way.

First, you get to think that just by “thinking” alone you can create anything you want in your life.

You see the little boy who wants the bike, he believes he will get it, and BANG, it appears at his doorstep.

You see a man who magically gets checks in the mail for no particular reason.

But then later in the movie, they talk about action. They say that visualizing is not enough… that you’ve got to “act on it.”

So is it really your thoughts that create your reality, or your actions?

The Secret really leaves you believing that your thoughts are powerful enough to create anything.

But then it warns you that you have to take action… So if you have to take action, doesn’t this render this “magical thinking” process flawed and irrelevant?

There are two conflicting systems there!

It’s your decisions that create your reality

So is it just the positive vibes and the power of belief that allows us to control our lives… or is it that this positive thinking helps us to take the right action, which ultimately is responsible for our reality?

My experience has been: Your thoughts are at the origin of your feelings, which in turn determines your action, which leads to your reality, or results.

But it’s really the actions and decisions that determine the results.

Thoughts alone are not always powerful enough to:

– Reverse a disease
– “Attract” the money that you need (without doing anything for it)
– Reverse the aging process
– “Attract” the right partner into your life

And then, comes the question, why do we have the thoughts we have?

It’s all the conditioning and the emotional baggage and all of the stuff we really have to deal with if we want to master our thoughts and control our reality.

Magical Thinking

In psychology they have found that children when they are young have something they call “magical thinking,” when children believe that whatever they think will happen for real. For example, if a little boy is mad at her sister and wants her to “disappear”, and then the sister gets sick and goes to the hospital, the little boy will start to think that her sister’s illness was his fault.

But eventually, as healthy adults we grow out of this “magical thinking” and realize that our thoughts don’t actually have the power to affect everything around us.

We realize that we can’t just believe that we’ll win the lottery to solve our financial problems, or that if we have a bad thought about someone it won’t necessarily mean that we’ve caused someone to die!

The people who don’t grow out of this magical thinking are usually dysfunctional in some way or another.

Where It’s Potentially Harmful

So the Secret, taken to an extreme, can lead people to make irrational decisions about their lives. In fact, I’ve seen this in “personal development” circles a lot, even before the movie was out, and I’ve been the prey of this myself too!

The example is someone deciding to buy something they can’t afford, putting it on their credit card and rationalizing the purchase by thinking they will just “manifest” the funds to pay it back.

Taken to this degree, this so-called “positive thinking” is nothing but a form of irresponsibility and avoiding the situation!

– Yes, let your thoughts be positive.

– Yes, pray every day.

– Yes, be grateful.

But then, take action! Because ultimately it’s really your actions that determine the course of your life. Your actions are what shapes your reality.

All of the spiritual traditions in the world have recognized the difficulty and almost impossibility in trying to control your thoughts. Thoughts fly in an a million miles an hour and even though one day you may think positive, the next day the same negative thoughts can come back.

But you can control what you DO. Often, by getting into action it helps you change your thinking. In fact, a big cause of worry and anxiety is not taking action on what you know you should be doing.

This is the true “Secret”. I bet that the producers of the Secret didn’t just use positive thinking to make their movie widely successful. I’m quite sure they didn’t just put on their dream board “I will sell over 1 million copies of this DVD by the summer 2007”.

In fact, I know that they worked pretty damned hard to reach their success. They took massive action.

There’s a prayer that I learned from my mother, who at some point learned it from someone who was in AA.

You may have heard it before. It goes as follow:

“God, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference…”

Parkinson’s disease affects approximately 1.5 million adults in the United States. Due to a deficiency in the chemical dopamine, which controls muscle coordination and movement, Parkinson’s disease most often affects motor skills and speech. People with Parkinson’s disease often experience difficulties with movement; many of them shake uncontrollably or go rigid. Balance is often affected, causing the afflicted person to fall often.

People with Parkinson’s disease also experience speech problems. For example, some people with Parkinson’s disease speak softly or unintelligibly. Others have problems with drooling or swallowing. Yes, Parkinson’s disease is a very sad affliction. However, these are not the only symptoms that make life more difficult for those afflicted by Parkinson’s disease. Many experts have found a correlation between Parkinson’s disease and sleep disorders as well.

Parkinson’s disease and sleep disorders that are most commonly associated with it cause problems for many adults. Some common disorders that occur as a result of Parkinson’s disease and sleep disorders are: insomnia, parasomnia, and daytime sleep disorders.

Insomnia

Of all adults with Parkinson’s disease and sleep disorders, approximately 74 per cent have insomnia as well. Insomnia causes one to have difficulties falling asleep, staying asleep, or waking up at a reasonable time. There are various forms of insomnia that can accompany Parkinson’s disease and sleep disorders. For example, the insomnia can be intermediate, initial, or terminal.

Parasomnia

Parasomnia is the occurrence of one of the following during sleep: vivid dreams, nocturnal hallucinosis, nightmares, night terrors, nocturnal vocalizations, sleep walking, sleep talking, panic attacks and rapid eye movement (REM) behavior disorder. Many people who are affected by Parkinson’s disease and sleep disorders report that they are also affected by one or more of these annoyances during sleep. This can cause the patient to feel as though they barely slept, when in fact they slept through the entire night.

Daytime Sleep Disorders

People with Parkinson’s disease are also affected by daytime sleep disorders. People with Parkinson’s disease frequently have trouble staying awake during the day. This can be a result of many things. Usually, it is because they had difficulties sleeping the previous night, or because of the medicine that is given to treat Parkinson’s disease. Also, conditions such as dementia, depression, and sleep apnea can accompany Parkinson’s disease and sleep disorders. These conditions can cause the person who is affected by Parkinson’s disease to feel tired or drowsy during the day as well.