Knowing that mother and father are the visible representatives of God, the householder, always and by all means, must please them. If the mother is pleased, and the father, God is pleased with the man. That child is really a good child who never speaks harsh words to his parents.

Before parents one must not utter jokes, must not show restlessness, must not show anger or temper. Before mother or father, a child must bow down low, and stand up in their presence, and must not take a seat until they order him to sit.

If the householder has food and drink and clothes without first seeing that his mother and his father, his children, his wife, and the poor, are supplied, he is committing a sin. The mother and the father are the causes of this body; so a man must undergo a thousand troubles in order to do good to them.

Even so is his duty to his wife. No man should scold his wife, and he must always maintain her as if she were his own mother. And even when he is in the greatest difficulties and troubles, he must not show anger to his wife.

He who thinks of another woman besides his wife, if he touches her even with his mind — that man goes to dark hell.

Before women he must not talk improper language, and never brag of his powers. He must not say, “I have done this, and I have done that.”

The householder must always please his wife with money,clothes, love, faith, and words like nectar, and never do anything to disturb her. That man who has succeeded in getting the love of a chaste wife has succeeded in his religion and has all the virtues.

The following are duties towards children: A son should be lovingly reared up to his fourth year; he should be educated till he is sixteen. When he is twenty years of age he should be employed in some work; he should then be treated affectionately by his father as his equal. Exactly in the same manner the daughter should be brought up, and should be educated with the greatest care. And when she marries, the father ought to give her jewels and wealth.

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The life of every individual,according to the Hindu scriptures, has its peculiar duties apart from what belongs in common to universal humanity. The Hindu begins life as a student; then he marries and becomes a householder; in old age he retires; and lastly he gives up the world and becomes a Sannyasin. To each of these stages of life certain duties are attached. No one of these stages is intrinsically superior to another. The life of the married man is quite as great as that of the celibate who has devoted himself to religious work. The scavenger in the street is quite as great and glorious as the king on his throne. Take him off his throne, make him do the work of the scavenger, and see how he fares. Take up the scavenger and see how he will rule. It is useless to say that the man who lives out of the world is a greater man than he who lives in the world; it is much more difficult to live in the world and worship God than to give it up and live a free and easy life.

The four stages of life in India have in later times been reduced to two — that of the householder and of the monk. The householder marries and carries on his duties as a citizen, and the duty of the other is to devote his energies wholly to religion, to preach and to worship God. I shall read to you a few passages from the Maha-Nirvana-Tantra, which treats of this subject, and you will see that it is a very difficult task for a man to be a householder, and perform all his duties perfectly:

The householder should be devoted to God; the knowledge of God should be his goal of life. Yet he must work constantly,perform all his duties; he must give up the fruits of his actions to God.It is the most difficult thing in this world to work and not care for the result, to help a man and never think that he ought to be grateful, to do some good work and at the same time never look to see whether it brings you name or fame,or nothing at all. Even the most arrant coward becomes brave when the world praises him. A fool can do heroic deeds when the approbation of society is upon him, but for a man to constantly do good without caring for the approbation of his fellow men is indeed the highest sacrifice man can perform. The great duty of the householder is to earn a living, but he must take care that he does not do it by telling lies, or by cheating, or by robbing others; and he must remember that his life is for the service of God, and the poor.

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Everybody have had issues in remembering a new person’s name. Some of these people who claims to having issues with names are blaming their “forgetfulness” trait while a handful of others say that it has been like that ever since they can remember and as expected, they do forget the names of the new people introduced to them when it happens.

What can we do about this? If you are one of the many people in the world who has the same problem with names, you can still try very simple remembering steps whenever an opportunity arises. You see, the problem here does not entirely rely on memory problems. There is just too much emphasis put on this and with people hearing it from others, just makes the problem worse.

If you have not done so yet, the next time you meet a new person, anticipate the chance when they introduce their names. Hold on to it and as long as you are still in conversation with the person, pick up all the facial details that you can and associate it with the person’s name. Just like when somebody walks up on you and say their name up front, immediately pick out something that is distinct from their facial features and associate it this with the person’s name right away. So when a friend asks you several days after whom were you talking to, you can easily respond with “Oh, the skinny guy with curly hair? His name is John.”

Another effective way to let this name-remembering problem go away is to let go of the attitude itself. Saying “I’m bad with names” isn’t going to solve the problem at all. Take the effort to let go of this bad habit and learn how to conquer it.

Whether you are partying with friends or attending an important business meeting with valuable clients, tell yourself that you need to remember these people’s names. Help yourself improve your memory. While you are still with these people, use their names repetitively. It does not matter if you sound like a recorder, the purpose is for you to be able to get used to the name until it makes an impression to your memory. Phrases like “What do you do for work, John?”, “John, can you pass that to me please?” or “Thanks, John” are helpful ways to how you can remember names easily.