Considered to be a medical condition, impotence or erectile dysfunction is characterized by the inability of the male organ to become fully erect. About 50 percent of the entire male population has experienced it. Often embarrassing, this condition can be treated if the cause is determined. Generally, there are two causes of impotence: physiological and psychological.

Since the male organ becomes engorged when erect, impotence may possibly caused by a blockage in the blood flow. A qualified medical practitioner would probably subject you to numerous diagnostic tests to pinpoint exactly where the blockage is. There are also instances when the impotence is caused by a more serious health problem like diabetes or even an undetected injury. It is known that illnesses like alcoholism and multiple sclerosis can cause impotence. Possible treatments include medication or surgery.

When a male has low self-esteem or anxiety, it could manifest as impotence. Other possible causes include being stressed, pressured or frustrated in either personal or work life. Because the body feels tired or tensed, the sexual performance becomes affected. Some males would take this lightly while some consider it humiliating and thus, worsen the condition.

Impotence caused by psychological reasons can be treated effectively by either psychotherapy or hypnotherapy. Psychotherapy would involve counseling to unearth the reason behind the inability to perform sexually. If the man becomes depressed because of this condition, he would be given anti-depressants as well. This treatment is effective if the patient would really be committed to attending each session. Understandably, psychotherapy can be a bit pricier.

Hypnotherapy, although relatively a new method, has been found to be effective in treating anxiety, phobias and addictions. Basically a person would be hypnotized t gain access to his subconscious. The hypnotist would then make suggestions that target the anxiety. It is possible that after one session, you could regain your erection. On the average, it takes about three to five sessions for the therapy to be effective.

Impotence is not something you should be embarrassed about. It is normal especially if you are very tired or have been thinking of a lot of things. Some men are harsh on themselves and lose interest in sex altogether to avoid repeating such situation. This is even unhealthier than ignoring the problem. Neither of these would help you regain a normal life and it could even lead you to depression. You should take responsibility and seek help at once.

Every once in a while we find ourselves in a situation that goes beyond the limits we would like to set. It may be something as simple as not being able to say ‘no’ to a neighbor who wants to borrow your car, and maybe the car is returned late which in turn causes you to get delayed going to work. If you could have said, I will not let anyone borrow my car when I need it, it would have saved you a lot of trouble. A limit can then be defined as a situation where you have control enough to say ‘thus far and no more, or the buck stops here’. You are then in a position to negotiate and come up with some alternatives. There are very few things that you cannot set limits to and once these issues are settled, life would be a lot easier to live.

In our personal lives we have often encountered situations like the one mentioned above and those who have managed to set their limits have done well. For those who are still caught up in the circle of want versus need, take heart. You need to start slow and take it from there. Set yourself a time limit the next time your neighbor stops for a chat at a time most inconvenient for you. Give yourself say 3 minutes and then diplomatically tell them that this is really not a good time so, could they excuse you? This course of action will ensure that you have not caused anyone embarrassment, your relationship with that person is maintained and you can go about your job on time as it should be done.

In the business world, one might assume that setting a limit is not required because the boundaries of the discussion exist thanks to the market place. Unfortunately it does not work that way. When the economics are on a downward trend even a business negotiation or deal can go awry. Good and services can be checked out as people know what they are getting in terms of value for money with goods like homes or cars and services like a laundry service etc. but this complacency in assuming that the deal will not cross what they consider to be reasonable and fair is a wrong notion. Take a look at people who are regularly making bad deals. Why does that happen? It’s only because they did not set a limit for themselves saying that this would be as far as they would go and no further. If one is firm, then one has the strength to walk away. You can then enforce your limit even if the other party is not aware of it.

Remember that your opponent will have also set limits for himself and there is a limit beyond which they too will not go the same as you. Don’t let the situation get to a point where your patience is tested. Those who do try the limits of their patience end up exploding or getting really annoyed and causing more damage than accomplishing anything. So a good idea would be to find out your limit and stick by it. It might save you a lot of trouble and heartache.

Have you Ever Run Into Those Little Tyrants? The little guys who think they can step on everyone’s toes?

Did you realize that the only people who seem to be power-hungry are those who don’t have any. Once you attain power, it becomes a burden. This statement comes from many of those minds that rose to power, thinking that happiness would follow, and were highly disappointed.

There are some people who derive pleasure from ordering others around, but they’re just insecure people who have no real personal power: power over their own lives. People who run their own lives don’t need to run others’.

Ironically, though, as people rise in worldly power, they often lose power over their own lives, because they’ve got so many people to please and obligations to meet. When this happens, reasonable people can become Little Hitlers. Sometimes they stay like that until they find a way to again manage their own lives.

Frequently, when people lose power over their own lives, they begin to tyrannize themselves with perfectionism. Perfectionism, like workaholism, is one of those vices that masquerades as a virtue – it’s fear disguised as strength. There are people everyday who wake up and congratulate themselves on their perfectionism even when it was killing them – by contributing to their cardiovascular disease. Successful people, in particular, often swallow the myth that it’s their perfectionism that has put them on top, rather than their brains and passion. One reason they feed themselves this myth is because perfectionism is so difficult that they need to exaggerate its benefits in order to be motivated to maintain it.

The popular clinical psychology perspective on perfectionism is that it’s initiated by demanding parents. However, many disagree with this conventional, blame-the-parents explanation. Their view is that perfectionism is just another mask for the fear of not being enough. It’s for insecure people who think that only the most perfect among us will prevail.

Similar to perfectionism, and just as self-destructive, is obsession with control. People with money often think it should give them control over other people and their own lives, but it doesn’t. In fact, control is a myth. Control connotes absolute power, and in this world, there’s no such thing. You’ll see in life that there are countless people who waste their lives struggling for control, and the more they demand it, the further they fall from true power. True power comes from management, not control. Management means realizing that you can’t control everybody and everything, and dealing with the world on its own terms – giving a little, taking a little. It works.