I walked away with my tail between my legs. Sure, the error was all mine. I had a list of people I’d spoken to and one name was really obscure and neither Jo nor I knew who they were.

I sat down and thought about it. ‘Who are you?’ I asked. ‘Make yourself known to me again?’

With that I turned my attention to other matters. That’s when the phone rang and the person on the list revealed themselves to me.

Now if we want to be cynical we could say that the materialisation of that phone call was just coincidence – that this person just happened to call and remind me who they were. But what are the chances?

First, I just happened to have written the name badly on the list. Second, Jo just happened to spot my error. Third, we just happened to be discussing the person. Fourth, I just happened to ask for that person to make themselves known to me again. And it all just happened to happen, in the space of an hour.

What odds would you give on that happening?

This kind of thing happens to me too often for me to doubt that there is some greater connection going on between all our minds – a higher awareness.

How does it work?

First we ask for things. Second we have to be consciously aware of what’s happening to us. It’s important that we follow events as they unfold rather than letting our mind get in the way. It’s also important to do it with a sense of humour and to celebrate in some way when the universe provides.

As soon as our mind gets in the way we break the chain of events and distort what the universe is creating – often ending up with something we didn’t want.

When we put our attention on finding a solution or a person we are brought into connection with minds – sometimes people we know, sometimes people we didn’t know – who are prepared to answer our call for help.

These people have the will to help, if you have the will to let them in. What often occurs when our call is answered is a discussion to see if help is possible. Oddly, as a quirk of human nature, we sometimes repel people who come to help and either we reject them or they decide they just cannot help us.

While I know synchronicity happens, I’m in no way attached to it happening. I put out a call for things and get on with life. There is no hankering. I ask, then I read, jog, make phone calls or do whatever I have to do while staying open to what happens.

I think it’s fair to say that attachment to an outcome is the biggest block that can get in the way. The times in my life when I’ve had no money are the hardest times to create money. When I’ve been in pain, it’s hard to imagine no pain.

But each time I’ve asked for a person to show up who can guide me (that’s guide me – not do for me), they’ve shown up and helped me. From their life got better.

You’ll find some very simple tips below. Please take note, this is a very simple version I’m giving you because all our situations differ. This basic outline is however workable for us all.

1. Think of one think that you feel you life needs right now.

2. Be clear on what you want.

3. Write it down

4. See it happening in the mind.

5. Now go about your daily life, aware that answers will come to direct you.

6. Keep doubt out. Stay positive.

Love and good wishes
Neil

Before you can even think about finding a ringing ears cure you must be sure as to why your tinnitus started in the first place. Exposure to noise accounts for more than 80% of all ringing in the ear cases worldwide. Ringing ears can be caused by fireworks, gun shots, industrial equipment or even very noisy factories and if you are surrounded by any of these noises on a daily basis you must use ear protection.Some common ear ringing mistakes:

Care must be taken when using stereo headphones, if the volume is too high, you may generate ear damage and you will hear sounds and noises for days including a ringing in the ear. Sometimes you can stop ringing in the ears when you eliminate or cut down on alcohol and caffeine. Smoking and using smokeless tobacco products may also cause tinnitus by reducing blood flow to the parts of the ear. Regular exercise may prompt a ringing ears cure because it improves blood flow to the structures of the ear. Your excess weight may cause ringing in the ear, because too much weight hampers blood flow.

Studies has shown that tinnitus occurs more frequently in over-weight adults. Vitamin B12 is a vitamin that you should include in your diet to enhance a ringing ears cure. Some studies points to the fact that this vitamin helps to protect the nerves in the inner ear. Milk and dairy products, meat and eggs are good sources of vitamin B12. According to the latest studies there are many remedies for helping tinnitus, but there is no one cure.

Did you know that:
Earphones that are played too loud can damage the cochlea & cause ringing in the ear

Researchers are making some progress towards developing a cure for ear ringing. Some researchers claim to be able to reduce the ringing by combining an inner-ear injection of lidocaine. Dr. John J. Shea Jr., MD from the Shea Ear Clinic in Memphis believes that this treatment generally brings a ringing ears cure with some lasting results. Many patients have had a complete elimination of their tinnitus. It is definitely possible to cure ear ringing, but it is unexplainable. Studies indicate that 85% of most patients are able to mask the sounds associated with tinnitus.

When the ear ringing gets overwhelming it helps when you can mask the noise using white noise CD’s, fans, running water or even a running washing machine can help. Great results have been achieved by masking the tinnitus noises and using homeopathic treatment remedies together. Let me explain, what you focus on will expand so if you can mask the noise it can allow you to focus on something else besides the ringing this giving your body a chance to allow the homeopathic treatment to work as a ringing ears cure.

“At work, every time I have to speak at meetings, I get so stressed.”

“I’m taking a class and I’m always afraid to raise my hand and ask a question.”

“I’m fine one to one, but as soon as I get into a group, I’m so tense I can hardly stand it.”

“I’m totally relaxed with my women friends, but as soon as I’m with a guy I like, I can’t be myself.”

Each of these people are anxious and stressed because they want to get approval and avoid disapproval. What are they telling themselves that is causing their anxiety?

“Oh God, I better not forget what I want to say and make a fool of myself.”

“The teacher might think the question I want to ask is a dumb one.”

“If I say the wrong thing no one will like me.”

“I better not say something completely stupid.”

Each of these people are telling themselves things that are causing anxiety, and underneath these self-judgmental statements is a deeper belief:

“If I say or do something wrong or stupid, they won’t like me and that means I am not okay.”

The need for approval and the fear of disapproval comes from the belief that others are responsible for your worth. If they like you, you are okay, and if they don’t like you, you are not okay.

If you are a person who seeks others’ approval, then you have made others responsible for sense of worth.

Imagine that you have a child, and instead of loving this child, you keep giving the child away to others to define. You keep saying to this child, “You better do it right because you if they don’t like you, then you are not okay.” The result would be that the child would feel very insecure and unlovable, because you kept giving him or her away to others for approval.

When you make others responsible for your sense of worth, you are doing the same thing on the inner level – giving away your own inner child. Instead of defining your own worth, you are making others responsible for this.

This is a very hard way to live. You have to constantly try to figure out what someone else wants of you to get approval and avoid disapproval. Your good and bad feelings are dependent upon how you look and how you perform, so you have to be constantly on your toes.

What if you were to take on the responsibility of defining your own worth? How would you go about doing this?

One of the problems in defining your own worth is that you may have been programmed to see yourself through the eyes of your parents, teachers, siblings and peers. If, when you were growing up, you got judged, criticized, rejected or ridiculed, you may have incorporated others’ images of you into your own mind. So you can’t define your own worth and lovability from your wounded self – your programmed ego mind. You need to define yourself through the eyes of love, not the eyes of judgment.

Start with imagining an older, wiser part of you, or imagine a person from your childhood who really loved you. Imagine that you can see yourself as a child through the eyes of this other person or through the older part of you. What do you see? Can you see your innocence, your lovingness, your sense of wonder, your creativity, your aliveness? Open to seeing who you are in your essence – your true Self.

If you were to practice seeing who you really are – not who you are in your wounded programmed self, but who you are in your essence Self – you would start to value your own beautiful essence. As you value your essence, you would start to treat yourself in kinder, more loving ways.

The more you practice doing this, the better you will feel about yourself and the less you will seek approval from others. In time and with practice, you will find yourself feeling so much happier and more peaceful!