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Helping Your Child Stop Smoking

You need to find solutions to teen-age problems, very fast. This generation is in a hurry. They have no time to pause and ponder. Being young, impressionable minds, they are easily carried away. They want quick rewards, efforts or no efforts. For every question, the youngsters have a counter-question. As a matter of course, this generation picks up bad habits. Smoking is one such serious habit, which needs to be checked well in time.

To help your child stop smoking is your parental responsibility. Do not show any latitude on this count.

Teenage smoking has been increasing at a phenomenal rate for the last few decades. The reasons may be many, but if the elder members in a family smoke, you can hardly do anything morally about smoking.

This negative tendency is also given additional fillip by advertisements in TV, newspapers, and calculated encouragement by the tobacco manufacturers. This habit has assumed alarming proportions in the college-going youngsters.

The father and mother alone can not help the teenage child. His social environment also compulsively influences him. So, they need to be provided with helpful resources for identifying remedy for their compulsive smoking addiction.

Educating the teenagers on compulsive smoking addiction, should be a part of the school syllabus. There are many stop smoking centers, run by private individuals or voluntary organizations. Provide your son with their telephone number, and if necessary take them along you, a couple of times.

There is another danger about smoking. Smoking is just the first step of the ladder of a series of destructive habits. The child, after taking course to smoking, may indulge in self-destructive behavior and neglect studies.

Notice these early warnings and your child’s changed behavior, to take corrective measures immediately.

The future of the family depends upon the children. It is your duty to give them good education and a solid foundation as for their moral and ethical values.

Children generally take to habits like smoking because of a lack of communication between the members of the family and the children. You will be the party to their moral doom, and ethical disaster unless you do something tangible, well in time.

Helping Others Gets You What You Want

“It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed”, Napoleon Hill.
There are a number of quotes or ideas similar to this one that I have heard over the years, but this quote represents the earliest appearance of this idea in secular literature I can recall, it was in the late 1950’s or so. Napoleon Hill is considered to have influenced more people in success and self-empowerment than any other person in history. Napoleon Hill was a journalist who was hired by one of the wealthiest business tycoon’s of the time Dale Carnegie, to put together the first real book on success and self-empowerment, which became the “Philosophy of Personal Achievement”, an outline of the best success and self-empowerment ideas and practices ever. Hill is most famous for the book, “Think and Grow Rich’ one of the best selling books of all time, which is where our quote comes from today.

Think and Grow Rich was the result of interviewing some of the best minds in the world at that time such as Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell, George Eastman, Henry Ford, John D. Rockefeller, Charles M. Schwab, F.W. Woolworth, Theodore Roosevelt, Woodrow Wilson, and many others. W. Clement Stone, originally a successful Insurance magnate (Combined Insurance) is another person who was influenced by Napoleon Hill’s philosophy and started having all of his insurance sales people trained by Hill. Earl Nightingale read a copy of “Think and Grow Rich” and instantly turned his weekly radio talk show into a radical success based on Napoleon Hill’s self-empowering ideas. Together these four original gurus of positive thinking, Hill, Carnegie, Stone, Nightingale pioneered the way of self empowerment for the next generation of motivational guru’s, authors and sales people that came along. Among some of the greatest were Zig Ziglar, Toni Robins, Brian Tracy, Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer and Maxwell Maltz just to name a few. I received my sales and self-empowerment training from several men who were the third generation of self-help gurus who came along.

Another quote which is my favorite take on Hill’s idea about helping others leads to success came from Zig Ziglar who said; “You can have everything in life that you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.”

This idea is delicious to me.” All I needed was enough people to sell”, I thought to myself, “and I would be in business”. After years of selling believe me I know that it is true because I have tasted it myself. I know that in a very real way I always got what I needed and wanted after I helped others to succeed. In its most basic form, this describes most company’s remuneration systems. Salesmen get their commission after selling products to customers. Employees collect their pay after they have provided a service to their employers. However, there is something that goes deeper than just our salaries. There are other ways to get paid in life. There are ways we don’t even see. For example, if we maintain a good rapport with our customers and our customers go back and tell our bosses, our bosses often reward us for our extra effort by promoting us. That is pay isn’t it? The opposite is also true; if we treat our customers badly, we shall reap the whirlwind for that because it all gets back to the boss, doesn’t it?

But I think our positive thinking gurus had something even more delicious in mind. I think its much more altruistic than that. I think our actions are seen by the unseen in our world. I think that they also report to a bigger chief, one who is also invisible. I think that we get our due compensation from him ultimately in due time. For example, if you are dishonest and you tell your customer a lie, the customer winds up eating the loss but refuse to shop there again. You get mugged outside by a stranger as you go to your car. Two totally unrelated things have happened here; or are they really unrelated? You have heard of “Bad Karma” right? Could this be your bad Karma?

You see the whole universe conspires to help you no matter what you do. The universe also can work against you. Not to say that God has arranged for you to get mugged, no! I’m not saying that. It was actually you who worked to conspire with the universe, not the Almighty. In Wayne Dyers’ book, “The Power of Intention”, he describes this phenomenon as the spirit in the universe actually being part of us as we are a part of everything that lives. Dr. Dyer’s point is that our spirit within us knows what’s wrong and what’s right. It is part of the universe and so the universe works with our spirit to accomplish what we set out to do. In the case of us doing wrong, if we are righteous at heart, the universe seems closed to us or negative in some ways and indeed it is we who have shut the doors ourselves. We are in touch with the darker side of the force, if you believe the genius of George Lucas and Obi-Wan Kenobi.

Even if you can’t accept that idea, what about this one; you have little money in your pocket but you give it to a starving man you see on the street. Later that month you find a twenty dollar bill in some pocket in some jeans you wore a long time ago; two unrelated incidents right? I don’t think so. I believe that good catches up to you just as bad has a way of catching up to you. I have experienced it myself over and over again. Sometimes it is right after I help someone; sometimes its months later but the truth is I get help or something wonderful happens to me because I lets say gave something to the church when I had nothing left to give. This is called the power of Tithing in my church. Ouch, was that a religious overtone!

I find it interesting that this idea about getting what you need by helping others get what they need is even in secular literature. This is after all a very religious idea. As a matter of fact if you look at the original ideas that came from Napoleon Hill, or Dale Carnegie, or others I spoke about, you will find many more spiritual ideas than these. They were very spiritual men. Carnegie gave Napoleon Hill a list of 500 of the most successful people to find and interview before collecting his thoughts in a book. What about those successful people; were they all religious? I don’t know, but I am willing to gamble that most of them were spiritual. I believe that there is no mystery in the fact that one of the richest men in the world would contract a stranger, Napoleon Hill who was one of the best journalists to write a book about the most successful ideas that makes a person self-empowered. He sent him off to interview from a list of 500 most successful people in the world some great souls who have experienced wealth, success and happiness. It’s not a mystery to me, because God wants us to learn all of that. He wants us to be wealthy, because wealth certainly goes a long way in getting things done in this physical world, doesn’t it?

I tell my students, money solves a lot of problems. My students are usually the poorest of the poor, welfare recipients who have been collecting welfare for years as their mothers before them did, as did their mothers before them. I don’t think it’s a mystery that God wants them to know how to be self sufficient. But before we can become successful, we must learn how to change our behaviors which means changing what we believe sometimes. No wonder God took one of the wealthiest men in the world to get a journalist to investigate how to get wealthy the best and easiest way possible. It is further not a mystery that all of this knowledge trickled down to me, a teacher of the poorest of poor. If that doesn’t get you to wonder I don’t know what will. God wants us to be empowered. He wants us to have what it takes. He wants us to learn what we personally need to do to make that happen. That is the nature of self-help literature and all motivational speakers and seminars you might attend. How about you? Are you ready? Do you want to learn? There are many more truths like this expressed on my website. To subscribe as a reader go to http://www.cyreousquotes.com/optinoptout.htm See you there!

Helpful Memory Aids For Memorization

For over many centuries now, memory techniques have evolved in which how they are used and learned by people. We all know that the process of remembering information is called ‘mnemonics’. We also know that mnemonics isn’t similar to magic tricks but due to its proven efficiency, it’s considered a technique pertaining to memorization.

If you haven’t realized yet how our memory works, a person’s memory effectively functions to how it associates objects and information. But of course, what we need to practice at is how we focus on things and such and eventually associate or link them with other information that enable us to remember what we need to remember.

One way of how to remember things easily is to rhyme words. How do you think we’re able to carry riddles and rhymes during our nursery years in school up to the later years of our lives? Just reading this question alone makes you remember one or two nursery rhymes you’ve learned, right? This also answers how toddlers are able to cope with what they learn in school at this very early stage of their lives. This is also the very reason why rhymes are considered as common memory aids.

Another effective memory technique is the use of initials or the first letter of the word. For example, for a group of items, you can take each first letter and make a word out of it. Remember ROY G. BIV? If you do, you’d know right away that this is not a name of a person but it stands for the seven colors of the rainbow – Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, Indigo and Violet. Notice how you have easily recognized the initials? Now you’re nodding.

You need not to make a name always out of the initials from a set of items. You can make a word or anything which can easily help you recognize the words equivalent to items. But in some cases, there might be too little number of vowels versus the consonants. Let’s have the items pasta, rye, fish, cheese and table. Together they look like this: PRFCT. We can add the letter E in between the initials to make it a word; in this case, it can be read now as PERFECT. Of course, when you remember the word PERFECT, you’d easily recognize which item stands for each consonant. Simple? Yes.

There are many other ways how to enhance your memory skills. Interesting and effective memorization techniques can be found at http://memory-improvement-techniques.com.